Here is my take on it and I will use a specific example. There is a child I know that is allowed little to no sweets. My kids? Well, it is basically a free for all. Side note: They actually have pretty healthy appetites and eat plenty of fruits and veggies. But I don't say that certain things are completely off limits. If they want a cookie after dinner and they have eaten pretty well, then they can go right ahead. Well, this one child that is allowed barely any sweets was given the opportunity to eat munchkins. My kid (who was there at the time) ate 3 or 4 munchkins. That was it. It was nothing new to her and she was over it. The other child gorged him/herself on over a dozen munchkins. It was a complete bloodbath.
You see where I am going here? Everything in moderation.
It always starts the same for me though. When the kids were babies, it was SO easy to control what they ate and when. Organic? You betcha. So easy to buy organic when it you are spending under a dollar on a jar of baby food that equals a whole meal. Sugar and sweets? No need for that when they are babies. As they get older, it's not so easy. And even if you try to strictly limit what they eat, they will just go totally OUT OF CONTROL when they are given the opportunity to get their little hands on some sugar. It would not be pretty, trust me.
Now, I am pretty much flying by the seat of my pants. And by "flying by the seat of my pants" I mean I try to make them eat as healthy as possible. I offers tons of fruits...and veggies that I know they like. I certainly don't allow all you can eat ice cream sundaes every night. Again, I guess it is everything in moderation.
Because I know that I don't want my kid to be the one elbow deep in the munchkins while other children are enjoying one or two. I saw that happen first hand. And I will tell you what, I talked shit on that mom as soon as she was out of earshot. I thought, "HA, serves you right. Guess who got the last laugh now, Mommy Dearest."
So what is a mom to do? What do you do? I would love to know.