Sunday, December 2, 2012

It's okay to be tired.

A friend of mine has a 15 month old daughter with a very rare illness.  Her daughter is in and out of the hospital.  She is always undergoing tests, getting blood work, receiving medication.  At this point, they are still figuring our how to treat her illness.

Not only does she have a 15 month old...she has twins that will be 4 in January.  I had them in my daycare for 2 years.  She is a busy mom.  She is a teacher.  She left her job this year to care for her daughter.  Throughout it all, she has always been so positive.  I can't imagine.  On her way to the hospital on Thanksgiving, she was wishing everyone a great holiday.  Again, she is always so positive.

Tonight she posted a status on facebook stating that she didn't expect any response, she just wanted to share that she was tired of seeing her happy, spirited little girl suffer.

I want to make her feel better.  I want to help in any way that I can.  Truth is, I probably can't do much.  But all I could think of was to say that it's okay to be tired. 

As parents, we feel like we have to keep it together.  Stay in control.  We have to be positive.  We have to be on our game for our children.

But it's truly okay to be tired.  It's fine to say that sometimes things just suck.  What parent wants to see their child sick or suffering?  Sometimes we just need to throw in the towel, sit down, and have a good cry.

No one will blame you.  No one will say that you are wrong.  No one will think that you shouldn't be sad or down or tired. 

And if they do, well then they suck.

Because it's okay to be tired.

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  1. We all need that break every now and then, both for our mental health and our physical health. I applaud her desire to stay positive, but you are so right that it's just okay to be tired and it's even more okay to ADMIT that you're tired and stressed. We all need a little encouragement now and again ;)

  2. I'm sure it's a fear that every parent shares, their child becoming ill. I like to say that I'd be the model of strength if I were faced with that, but in all honest, I don't think I could handle it. And I've dealt with preemies! I guess we never realize our strength until we absolutely have to. I don't ever want to have to though.


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